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Libranaster
03-05-2007, 02:54 AM
Ok I know that some women just love mid wives but where I am I have some issues. I had both my kids at the Calvary Hospital in Tasmania and I thought my experience with my daughter would be one off till I went in there with my son. I have never met such a lazy useless lot in all my life. The mid wives there need treatment there has to be something wrong with them. For starters the mid wives are lazy they don't want to go out of their own way. My first child was very jaundice and had to go under the uv lights well one night the nurse shoves the uv thingy with my daughter in it in my room with me now I can't sleep if there is light in the room, my room has to be pitch black so needless to say I got no sleep. When the baby blues set in I was so upset and crying and just wanted to go home because the nurse wouldn't take her back to the nursery because quote "they were bogged down looking after women who had cesaereans. I can appreciate these women need care but them leaving me with my daughter caused me to suffer with post natal depression and its not like she was a bad baby that didn't sleep. Also they never consulted me about whether I wanted to breast feed they gave her formula straight away and due to that my breast milk could not fulfill her so I missed out on that experience with her. These were few of but a number of issues they caused when I had my daughter. Now with my son I bled out half my blood supply which made me feel very sick not only that I was very bruised and sore. On the second night I was in hospital it really hit me and I was exhausted and my son wouldn't stop crying he had been fed and changed and burped and cuddled but he wouldn't settle. All I wanted was a chance to get a little sleep as I was very sore and tired but no. I asked the nurse to take him to the nursery and once again the excuse was they were bogged down with women who had cesaereans. Well needless to say that pissed me off. I was very sick and extreamly sore and just wanted some rest and I can't sleep during the day due to the whole light thing. I wish I could have gotten up I would have killed her. Due to being trapped in a room for three days with a screaming baby this time my post natal depression was 10 times worse than with my daughter. My partner lost his job because he had to stay home and take care of me, I missed out on the most important time of my children's lives I will never get a chance to enjoy having a baby. That isn't fair on me. So if any one here lives in Tasmania I suggest you don't go to the Calvary hospital to have a baby because if you have a natural birth they wont have time for you.

Purple98Lady
03-05-2007, 02:51 PM
Welcome to the forum Libranaster,

Sorry you had that experience in Tasmania. I don't have any experience with mid-wives. While I'm sure many are very capable, I felt more comfortable with natural childbirth but in the hospital setting. The nurses are the midwives in a way and quiet compasionate. I also have no experience with post natal blues. I just wanted my baby with me from the moment of birth and found even short periods away from would upset me. I wanted my baby to know me, my voice and my touch and not merely be touched and cared for by someone eles. I think the sooner the bonding between mother and baby the better. I do think they should of given you the choice of breast feeding as soon as she was born pronto, because a mothers first breastmilk is so beneficial to the baby.
Now mind you I had babies back in the day when it was very scheduled, and didn't really allow you the options like moving about, walking around , simple things I knew would benefit the birthing from common sense( like not having to work against gravity). I was leaning toward how birthing is done today, I just plain did what I felt was right against all the norm, and my dr. let me thank god.
So while I empathize with you I on the other hand found it to be a wonderful experience ,but not so wonderful I would repeat it more then twice( son first, daughter second ,one of each) :tongue:
I do hope your blues didn't last for long or hinder the bonding an infant so desperately needs.

Good Luck,
Purple98Lady:smile: