How can I protect my mother from being taken advantage of by my brother?

[spencer.woods]

My mother is 92 and of sound mind, but cannot say no to her son. He can talk her into anything. He is getting money from her account and she is giving him money and checks. Now he is trying to get her to buy him a house. He is an alcoholic and his record is extremely bad.

I have consulted few of my friends and am also working on suggestions online like Link Removed.

What can I do to protect my mother and her money?

Please advise.

Thanks in advance,
Spencer

[Purple98Lady]

Hi and welcome,

First if your mom is of sound mind which can be deemed by her physician she can give monies/property to anyone or child. Not to say this son is taking advantage of his mom and she goes along with it. I would have her mentally checked by her physician and if indeed she is of sound mind you probably should discuss with her what are her wishes in this last stage of her life. Meaning how does she want to be taken care of say with healthcare , life saving measures etc. and most importantly who she wants to be able to handle her money and be her power of attorney when she is not of sound mind or unable to make decisions on her own. She clearly is at a time when these things need to be addressed. Also there needs to be enough monies etc. left to be able to take care of her. Talk to your mom and ask her about these questions. Someone needs to protect her assets for her own wellbeing. Its really a disgrace what some children do to their parents when it comes to money and this is not a rare incident. Also you should get legal advice pertaining to your brother as he is not of sound mind being an alcoholic which is a disease. Good Luck

[alaxesose]

I need to do this for my dad, who has been turning to alcohol more and more ever since my mom left us. He really needs to get himself treated soon, and this wont happen if I cant find an addiction treatment center for him. Can someone please help me?

[Purple98Lady]

You could inquire at the local hospital , health department in your area. Also do a search for crisis intervention agencies in your area. Its sad but most people with a drinking problem won't agree until they are ready and by then alot of times are at rock bottom in their lives or a medical crisis. Talk with his physician or ur local social services offcie also . Good Luck